Maybe you’re a man, specifically a Dad man, and you’re reading this blog wondering, what is like to be a Woman, specifically a Mother? It’s so so wonderful, and it hurts, but most of all, the guilt is absurd and overwhelming, a constant undertow. Has it gotten worse over the last 50 years? Were women even allowed to have Self until the 60’s? Here’s a short list of things that make me feel guilty, ie, I should not be doing this, I should be fully present and engaged with my child:

• Making dinner for us to eat
• ordering groceries so I can make dinner for us to eat
• any cleaning ever
• texting a friend to check on them
• showering (only sometimes, but I’ve actually felt this guilt)
• doing my physical therapy so I can fix my body which is strained from growing and carrying the children
• WRITING THIS RIGHT NOW