I finally realized something, perhaps 15 years too late: When I (inadvertently or…vertently?) hurt or piss someone off, and I realize that this has happened, and I then spiral with guilt and shame over having hurt or pissed them off — IT IS NOT  THIS PERSON’S JOB TO MAKE ME FEEL BETTER ABOUT FEELING BAD ABOUT HAVING HURT OR PISSED THEM OFF. Thusly, all grown persons are responsible for their own actions, their own feelings, their own beds and lunches and cars, and if you feel bad about your actions, you are perhaps meant to just sit in that. IT’S UNCOMFORTABLE FOR A REASON. Stay tuned for other profound life lessons you’ve never heard of like ‘Try not to steal things’ and ‘Don’t murder.’