This book is single-handedly actually altering the way I perceive and manage my own feelings. It’s incredible. It’s basically just a compilation of advice letters and responses, topics ranging from tension with parents, to love, to jealousy, to misery, to morality and where it comes from (a personal favorite.) The thesis: embrace inconsistencies, and the unknown. I want to sit here and transcribe the entire thing for you but that’s probably technically illegal, Instead, here’s a slice:

“Do you hear that? It’s your body talking to you. Do what it tells you to do. Be its employee. It doesn’t matter what your head is working out — the money, the uncertainty of employment, the meta/feminist gymnastics. Putting faith in that stuff might pay the rent, but it’s never going to build your house. We are here to build the house. It’s our work, our job, the most important gig of all: to make a place that belongs to us, a structure composed of our own moral codes. Not the code that only echoes imposed cultural values, but the the one that tells us on a visceral level what to do. You know what’s right for you and what’s wrong for you.”